Adam Cam

How to hurt a narcissist

A person who’s comfortable being alone is a DANGEROUS person in the best possible way

If you met them for the first time today, knowing everything you know now… would you still choose them?

Try it… ask him.

If he likes another girls post…

We went from love songs to complete degeneracy.

Women are reciprocators, not initiators.

Dealing with a narcissist will make you question your reality. They’ll lie, deflect, twist, guilt-trip, and flip the blame so well that you end up apologizing for being hurt. Truth is, you can’t win an argument with someone who isn’t interested in truth — only control. You won’t get closure from someone who benefits from your confusion. And you sure as hell won’t find peace by trying to fix them. So don’t waste your energy trying to explain yourself better. Don’t fall into the trap of proving your pain.
Don’t wait for an apology that’s never coming. The best way to deal with a narcissist? Boundaries. Silence. Distance. Clarity. The moment you stop engaging is the moment you take your power back.

When someone hurts you... and somehow you end up apologising for being upset about it... that's not a healthy dynamic. That's emotional manipulation. Gaslighting doesn't always sound like, "You're crazy." Sometimes, it sounds like… "You're overreacting” “You're too sensitive" "I didn't mean it like that." They flip the script so well, you start questioning your own feelings, and apologising... just to keep the peace. But here's the truth: You're not wrong for reacting. You're not difficult for having boundaries. And you're definitely not the problem for expecting respect. If every conflict leaves you confused, guilty, or saying sorry for what they did... it's not a misunderstanding. It's gaslighting.

More couples need to understand this

This will solve most of your problems.

Dear men, pick your lane and handle what comes with it.

Don’t get into a relationship with anyone until you can honestly answer these two questions… Am I actually healed… or just hoping someone else will stop the bleeding? Do I really want this person… or do I just want someone to save me from loneliness?

Emotional integrity. Something the modern generation don’t quite seem to understand.

when your energy is CALM, your standards get LOUD.

Transparency isn’t about being “controlled” or “whipped,” or whatever the trending buzzword is these days… 
It’s about creating safety and prioritising your partners peace of mind by leaving no space for doubt.

When a man is serious about a woman, he doesn't just pursue… he secures.

The version of them that shows up in that first argument… is version you’ll be dealing with when life gets hard and stress is high. It shows you how they deal with pressure, accountability, and emotional discomfort. So don’t ignore it. Don’t excuse it. Don’t romanticise your way around it. Remember, an argument isn’t a red flag. It’s a reveal.

Don’t trust “nice” men. Now compare that to a good man:   He’s kind… but he’s honest and direct.   He won’t just agree just to keep you happy... but he’ll handle any conflict or tension with empathy and respect.   He’ll have strong boundaries and stand by his beliefs (even when it’s uncomfortable) because he values the long-term potential of the relationship more than your temporary approval.   He never, and I repeat, NEVER love bombs you and showers you with compliments, nor ever put you on a pedestal.   Why? Because he doesn’t need to. He’s not trying to win you, manipulate you, or fast-track intimacy… he’s trying to get to know you. And sees you as his equal.   So remember…   A nice man cares about being liked.
 A good man cares about being real. One wants approval. The other wants connection. Learn the difference.

If they’re not doing this for you… you’re not a priority.